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		<title>白頭偕老的秘訣</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:37:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[聽過黃鴻麟名字的人，敢說大部分不是因他是沙田基督書院的校長，而是他的愛妻方法，大名遠播。 他在千禧年推出的處女作《護妻傾情四十八式》，令男士嘆為觀止，女士心生渴望，渴望自己的另一半仿傚。 書中他分享了48個獨門老婆秘方，創意十足。 創意的背後，是四分之一個世紀的婚姻經驗，還有業餘修讀輔導課程帶來的啟發。 啟示 1：芝麻綠豆 釀成衝突 婚姻，最難避免的就是衝突。 就算拍拖時如何甜蜜如何和平共處，結婚之後，芝麻綠豆的小事也可變成衝突，黃校長想不到的，只是衝突來得如此快…… 婚後第一頓飯，太太在廚房煮飯，並向客廳正在看報紙的他高呼：「執檯喇，準備食飯呀。」 黃校長以超高速搬走桌上雜物，繼續等食，誰知太太從廚房出來，竟然面色一沉。 「原來她娘家執檯的定義，不單止要搬走雜物，還要把桌子抹得一乾二淨、擺好餐具。 但我由小到大，只知執檯就是搬走桌上的雜物。」 諸如此類的分歧接踵而來 …… 有次太太對他說：「你點扭毛巾?？」 他很懊惱，活了這麼多年，沒理由連扭毛巾都不懂嘛，原來太太一直是反手扭毛巾，他卻相反。 這一切一切，給他帶來許多啟示： 「在生活細節上，會發現彼此有很多不同，如不存體諒包容之心，任何一件瑣事都可以成為衝突的導火線。」 啟示 2：別強迫對方改變 一段婚姻，需要夫婦倆不斷學習怎樣體諒、明白、包容一 個人與適應。 「我處理過很多個案，發現婚姻破裂，都是因為欠缺這些 素質。 尤其人總是偏向主觀，很多時會用自我的標準去衡量或規範別人。」 有天他忘記帶車匙，太太說：「都叫你不要把車匙放在那兒?啦。」 事後他跟對方說：「『放在那兒』是我的習慣，如果我把車匙放在你指定的地方，只會有更多機會忘記。」 他發現，很多人結婚後不自覺要改變對方，小至唧牙膏、放物件等，都是有我無佢，忽視了應尊重對方。 「很多小事本身沒有對錯之分，反省過後，就會看到背後動機，原來是想控制對方。 這是沒有必要的，因為愛人是要一起好好生活下去，並非要來控制的。」 啟示 3：事後溝通最緊要 他也承認，衝突是無可避免，最重要是事後溝通： 「如放車匙這個例子，我們了解過彼此的想法後，決定屬於我的東西由我負責擺放，屬於她的由她擺放，到了要用時，只要問對方便可。」 至於扭毛巾這回事，經過他多番驗證，證實反手確是扭得乾淨些，所以他也婦唱夫隨起來。 夫婦間最常說的一句話是：「我要你這樣做，都是為你好。」 黃校長認為，凡事要看得遠一點。 「是為對方好，還是為自己好？如果要對方不做這些事，可能會帶給對方更多不舒服、更多壓力，只會造成另一個新問題。」 啟示 &#8230; <a href="http://chihping.aflypen.com/714.html">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a><table class="wumii-related-items" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="3" border="0"  style="clear: both;">
    
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